Individual Therapy and Couples Counselling
Helping people who feel stuck, anxious or stressed find a way forward
Perhaps life feels harder to navigate at the moment, problem-solving seems out of reach, you no longer trust your gut, or you somehow don’t feel good enough.
Many of the strategies that once helped you cope may now be keeping you stuck, leading to more distance from yourself and the people who matter most.
Frequent Reasons to Seek Individual Therapy
You may be feeling anxious, stressed, depressed, overwhelmed, or caught in recurring relationship difficulties. Beneath these struggles, there is also a deeper sense of disconnection.
I work to understand the impact of your experience as well as identify internal barriers to change. Some of the most frequent issues clients seek therapy for include:
Anxiety
Depression
Stress
Relationship conflict
Self-esteem issues
Intimacy issues
My approach
Therapy: a space for support and growth
My approach is informed by Transactional Analysis Psychotherapy, which uses the Ego-State model as well as Life Script analysis to identify patterns in relating, thinking, feeling, and behaving. For couples work, I also draw on the Bader-Pearson Developmental model of Couplehood, which provides a framework for both assessing and diagnosing the stage of relationship’s development, as well as treating relationship difficulties.
In addition to this, I am trained in a “relational model” of therapy, meaning I often share my own in-the-moment responses to what clients bring to therapy, rather than the “blank slate” approach used in some traditional talking therapies. This process can be very effective in uncovering recurring self-defeating patterns and opening the way for healthier, more fulfilling ways of relating.
These approaches all lend themselves well to providing both short-term symptom relief, and supporting longer-term depth work to address internal barriers to change. I do not use manualised therapy frameworks such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT).
Whether you're seeking support around intimacy, communication, conflict, coming out, mental health, or navigating wider social and systemic pressures, our work together will provide a space for healing, exploration, and growth.
Finding the right therapist
A strong therapeutic relationship is key to meaningful change. It’s important that you feel a sense of trust and safety, with space for that trust to grow over time. By reflecting on the process within our sessions, we can make adjustments as needed and strengthen the “working alliance”, creating a supportive and empathic space for the work to unfold.
While much of my experience is working with gay men, I work with clients of all identities and backgrounds. Having shared lived experience is not a guarantee of a good therapeutic relationship, and not all gay men share the same experience; sometimes “sameness” helps in the therapy room as there may be areas of your life you don’t want to explain, at other times you may want the “difference” of another perspective from someone with another experience to your own. This can also evolve during the course of the work.
In-person and Online
My practice rooms are located in southeast London, a short walk from Greenwich DLR station: Linear House, Peyton Place, London SE10 8RS. I both work in-person and online.
Location
Linear House, Peyton Place
Greenwich, London SE10 8RS
Contact
email
alex@alexvendittelli.com
phone
020 3825 1925
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